The nose knows.
If you only get as far as the end of it, you’re not really accomplishing much at all. What the heck does that mean? It all comes down to you, the conversation you have with yourself, your perception of others and your goals. Your nose knows.
“If you get the feeling or belief that you can’t make a mistake or that everybody is always successful, you won’t let yourself do things you’re capable of doing, or you set your goals so close to the end of your nose that they’re easily attainable. You never stretch to be what you’re capable of being. You need confidence or reassurance that you can attain the vision and reach the goal even when you don’t have the slightest idea how you’re going to get there at the outset.
How do you change your self-image? By controlling and changing your self-talk. Language has power over behavior. If you control your self-talk, you can use your subconscious to help you achieve your goals.”
The excerpt above is from, Smart Talk for Achieving Your Potential, by Lou Tice. And it’s all about getting past the easy goals right at the end of your nose. It’s about stretching to go much, much further then you ever thought you could by changing the way you talk to yourself and your self-image, compared to who and where you are now – NOT COMPARED TO OTHERS.
Comparison to others is the thief of all joy. No one is perfect and just as Lou Tice says in that excerpt, if you allow yourself to think that way, that others simply have what you don’t, or do what you can’t, then you are finished before you even start.
That is until you have a smart conversation with yourself.
Get your head in the game – the word game and use words to overcome your brain’s core function: survival. Your brain has just one goal in mind, to make sure you survive, at the most basic levels. It doesn’t know what is positive or negative, it only knows what you feed it. It can only see what is at the end of your nose and then decide whether what it senses is safe, or dangerous and then make you act accordingly.
Taking risks, finding your why, reaching your potential means you need to feed your brain positive food – self talk.
I’ve lived it and continue to live it every day, for life is a journey, the only final destination is death. To get past my own challenge of stuttering, which was holding me back from my goals and dreams years ago, I had to feed my mind positive self-talk, the words, images and vision of seeing myself succeeding in situations which before I thought there was no way I could accomplish. Working on this changed the direction of my life – I faced my fears head on, and built a new reality – I got to be on live TV for ten years, a dream I had as a kid and one I thought was never possible. I became an author/blogger/speech writer and now do live speaking engagements. I’m in sales for god’s sake – talking with people every day about health insurance and using words which for most of my life I thought there was no way would ever come out of my mouth – in place of those words I would chose silence and avoidance.
Not anymore. I’ve trained my brain to overcome, I’ve trained my mind to think big, I’ve worked to face my fears and to prove to myself every day that “I can”. I am a stutterer but you would never know it, because I rarely think about it or show it – my self-talk and my self-image say otherwise. And as Lou Tice explains, “Whatever you repeatedly tell yourself with your own self-talk determines your beliefs and self-image, which affect your behavior. You become like that which you think about.”
So what about you? It’s your turn. It’s always your turn because there is no perfect time, remember we are on a journey and the train never stops until you reach the station – the end of life. The ride speeds up, it slows down, it gets off track and then it crosses back. Where are you going? What do you want to do? What are your dreams? And what are you telling yourself, what is the conversation in your head? What do you say when you talk to yourself?
Change the conversation and change your life. Look past the end of your nose and see your potential, then go out and live it.
Until next time, thanks for taking the time.
Mark Brodinsky, Author, Blogger, Speaker, Emmy Winner, USHEALTH Advisors (http://www.ushagent.com/markbrodinsky)
Author: The #1 Amazon Best-Seller: It Takes 2. Surviving Breast Cancer: A Spouse’s Story
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