Thank You, Talking Good: It’s Just About… Life

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Many thanks to Rich Polt and his mission of Talking Good, (http://www.talkinggood.com/), for choosing to interview and feature my story today.  Back in December I featured Rich in The Sunday Series, (http://markbrodinsky.com/the-sunday-series-9-with-mark-brodinsky/) and today he turns the tables and by doing so, touches my heart.

Thanks again to Rich and his wonderful mission. It is an honor I do not take for granted:  http://www.talkinggood.com/profiles/MarkBrodinsky

Until next time, thanks for taking the time.

Mark

Mark Brodinsky, Author, Huffington Post Blogger, Financial Services

The #1 Amazon Best Seller: It Takes 2. Surviving Breast Cancer: A Spouse’s Story

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It’s On Me: It’s Just About… Life

This time I kind of did it in reverse. What has recently become normal practice is to post a blog here on my site, then submit it to Huffington Post to see if it is accepted. There can be as much as a 24-hour turnaround on their end, since the blog team at HuffPost makes the final decision to accept it or not. This time I submitted first to Huffington Post, and they accepted and posted my article yesterday morning. So here now  is that HuffPost blog.

You can read below, or click on the link, (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mark-brodinsky/on-me-its-just-about-life_b_5621130.html), either way the work is done, I hope you like it… it’s on me.

apology

You hear it all the time:

“I didn’t do anything wrong.”

“It’s not my fault.”

“I deny everything.”

“I have nothing to hide.”

Most of the time with the highest-profile athletes, politicians, actors, CEOs, shady investors and the like, it’s lies… all lies. Until of course they’re caught. Even then there may be no admission of guilt.

So when someone steps up to the plate immediately, says “I’m wrong,” tells the world “it’s my fault,” and says “I’m sorry,” well, I for one think it’s worth paying attention and giving recognition. Because that’s the way it’s supposed to be. Want to live a better life, want to be respected, want to change the world?  Then stand up and tell the truth, even when it hurts.

The other day Major League baseball player Cameron Maybin of the San Diego Padres was suspended for 25 games after testing positive for amphetamines. Immediately following the announcement, Maybin issued a statement:

“I have been undergoing treatment for several years for a medical condition, Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), for which I previously had a Therapeutic Use Exemption [TUE],” the statement read. “Unfortunately, in my attempts to switch back to a medicine that had been previously OK’d, I neglected to follow all the rules and as a result I tested positive.

I want to assure everyone that this was a genuine effort to treat my condition and I was not trying in any way to gain an advantage in my baseball career.  I understand that I must accept responsibility for this mistake and I will take my punishment and will not challenge my suspension. I apologize to my family, friends, fans, teammates, and the entire Padres organization. I look forward to returning to the field and contributing to the success of my club.”

MLB: San Diego Padres at Colorado Rockies

Maybin did it. He admitted he did it. And he said he was sorry for doing it. And in doing so he gains respect. Just read the responses from the Padres organization:

Padres manager Bud Black: “Our club fully supports Major League Baseball’s Joint Drug Prevention and Treatment Program. Cameron has accepted full responsibility for his violation and apologized to his teammates and coaches.  We are all looking forward to his return.”

Team President and CEO Mike Dee added: “I’m disappointed in Cameron’s violation of MLB’s Joint Drug Prevention and Treatment Program,  but am pleased that he’s taking responsibility for his mistake.  The Joint Agreement was put into place to protect both the player and the game, and the Padres fully support it.”

My point here is simple, but there is a tremendous lesson to be learned. We all make mistakes, sometimes we do the wrong thing, make a poor decision, hurt our reputation and lose trust in the process. No one is perfect, and it can be a long battle back to regain the respect and the trust, but you can start by admitting you are wrong, saying you are sorry and apologizing to those you offended, or who were hurt by your actions. But act quickly.

In sports they say defense wins championships. But even the best defense makes an error now and then. In life when you make a mistake, your best defense is a great offense. Stand up and say you are sorry, admit the truth — and tell everyone, “it’s on me.”

Until next time, thanks for taking the time.

Mark, Author, Huffington Post Blogger, Financial Services

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The Sunday Series (35), with Mark Brodinsky

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Failure after failure after failure. Massive failure. Inside all of it just a modicum of success. For many the daily grind would break them, the glimmer of hope would not sustain them. But these humans have that something extra which drives them to seek out splendid discipline and by doing so, to shine.

The Sunday Series (35): The Hall of Fame

If this blog is about anything, it’s about purpose, passion, meaning, it’s just about… life. Baseball, the sport which most closely resembles it. The sport which relates to the every day challenges almost all of us face. It’s how you overcome, persevere, strategize, hope, love and then step up to the plate, with the knowledge that if you just keep trying, learn from failure after failure, work at getting better, you too will shine.

That’s life. That’s baseball. And those who do it best, those who make failure their friend and success their brother, earn their way to the top of the mountain and a golden ticket to the Baseball Hall of Fame.

Today six men who played and/or managed the game get their place in baseball immortality. No, I didn’t interview a single one, but I did get to watch them play and I simply thought it fitting this Sunday to share some Hall of Fame quotes from or about these players. Day after day these men managed to find success admist a sea of challenges at the plate, on the mound, in the dugout. The statistics in baseball are everything, but the numbers are necessary because in this game where everything counts, just like life, the numbers never lie. And if you can hit 3-out-of-10, if you can throw more strikes than balls and win more than you lose, if you can manage 25 men to greatness, then you can become the best. And if you do, if you can, there is nothing quite like a view from the top.

First there are the two pitchers and a manager, all who were part of the Atlanta Braves historic run through the 1990′s:  Greg Maddux, Tom Glavine and Frank Thomas.

Greg Maddux, nicknamed “Mad Dog” and “The Professor” by his teammates. The only pitcher in major league history to win at least 15 games in 17 seasons. The only pitcher to record 300 wins, 3,000 strikeouts and walk fewer than 1,000. A 4-time consecutive Cy Young award winner, who racked up 355 wins.

Maddux has one of the greatest quotes of all time for a pitcher, and little leaguers should listen up: “The secret to pitching, is to make your balls look like strikes and your strikes look like balls.”  Love that one.

Tom Glavine, who had five 20-win seasons, 2 Cy Young awards and the fourth-most wins (305) by any left-handed pitcher in Major League history: “There was always that willingness to look at myself and know there were things I could do better and I needed to do better,” Glavine says. “In my mind, I was never shy about taking those things on to try to get better.”

Then there is  Manager Bobby Cox, who spent most of his career with the Braves, guiding them to 16 post-season appearances, four pennants and a World Series: “Bobby did things no other manager had the guts to do,” former pitcher John Smoltz says. “He understood players. He understood what made them tick, and trusted them, and what their pride was. We didn’t have parachutes in spring training or any of those gimmicks.” No gimmicks for Cox, who earned Manager of the Year honors four times and had more than 2500 victories.

hof managers

Two other managers also are enshrined today, inclulding Joe Torre, best known for his days in pinstripes with the Yankees, winning six pennants and four world championships cementing his niche in baseball history.  “I learned from every managing job, said Torre. There are certain things you don’t care for but you have to do. You just have to learn how to do them. I always tried to find a positive way to get a message across to a player. So I had to hone my communication skills. I tried to stay the same person as manager, I was as a player.”

Manager Tony LaRussa won multiple World Series championships with the Oakland A’s and St Louis Cardinals. He was also one of those whose skills were documeted in George Wills legendary book, Men At Work. “I never imagined managing so long”, says Larussa, whose career lasted 33 years. LaRussa has been criticized because some of his most successful teams included players who were suspected of, or admitted to steroid use. LaRussa says, “I know there are people that have accused me because of some of the guys that helped us win in Oakland and St. Louis, so the only thing I can say is I know 100 percent that our program was absolutely clean for everything that we could control.”

For Chicago White Sox slugger Frank Thomas, “The Big Hurt”, who also played ball during the steroid era, but was never linked to any performance-enhancing drugs, this honor means so much: “I can just tell you, what I did was real and that’s why I’ve got this smile on my face right now because the writers, they definitely got it right.” Right is right. Thomas was a 2-time Most Valuable Player (in consecutive years), a Comeback Player of the Year and had more than  500 homeruns, while maintaining a .300 lifetime batting average. He’s on a short list of players who accomplished that feat including Hall of Famers, Babe Ruth, Jimmie Fox, Mel Ott , Ted Williams, Willie Mays and Hank Aaron. That’s some serious company.

Though most of us will never take the mound in a major league ballpark, hit a homerun over 400 feet, (or even  200 for that matter), nor have the patience, talent and smarts to corral a group of 25 men and march them toward a world championship…we can all learn a lesson from those who lived these moments as part of the greatest game ever played, because we too overcome great challenges.

Baseball is a tough game. So is life. We face struggles and failure. In baseball, hard work, discipline, consistency and extraordinary achievement is rewarded with a ticket to sports immortality. Do the same in life and you too are rewarded, maybe not with a bust in the Hall of Fame, but with a legacy you leave that all whose lives you touched will remember.

Yes, there’s a “Hall” for all of us.

Until next time, thanks for taking the time.

Mark

Author, Huffington Post Blogger, Financial Services

#1 Amazon Best Seller: It Takes 2. Surviving Breast Cancer: A Spouse’s Story (www.spouses-story.com)

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The 19th Hole: It’s Just About… Life

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WOGO VI

They say in life it’s the moments that take your breath away, but sometimes it’s simply the moments you get away.

Want to have a happier, more fulfilling existence? Then take time to rest, relax and hang out with friends. Recharge, reconnect…and shoot for par.

That’s the whole idea behind the annual golf trip I take part in called WOGO, (Worthington Overlook Golf Outing). This year was another outstanding trip, WOGO VI, (Roman numerals make everything look more important don’t they… even a golf trip!) The couple of days were expertly planned out by planner extraordinaire Mitchell Platt.  The golf this year was challenging, not that golf is ever not challenging…18 holes a day for three days, you do the math, I’m too tired.

And while every super long drive, birdie putt, (no eagles I heard about), or winning a round is a big part of the three days, it’s the time after the round ends that makes the trip, the time that levels the playing field for everyone, no matter what your handicap, year after year. The time to hang out, share a good laugh, actually many of them, a few beers, (sometimes many of those as well), is what makes the annual outing special. Spend some time with friends, those you see often, or those you don’t get to see much at all, everyone is ready to kick back and relax.

It’s the realization that when the clubs are back in the car, the golf shoes are off and the only place you really need to be is… well, nowhere, that nowhere can sometimes be a good thing. Especially if you are there with people you like.

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A Few of the Founding Fathers of WOGO

In his book, The Charge, Brendon Burchard says: “Your friendships have as much bearing on your happiness in life as does the kind of work you do, or the amount of money you make.” So you might as well at least focus some of your energy beyond just work, and spend some time on your drive, your short game, and your ability to connect with other people. Because while you may never join the PGA Tour, if you’ve got some friends to help find your last drive in the woods, the tall grass, or show you where the drop zone is, AND help you find your way back to the hotel after a long night out, it’s all part of the game of life. :)

That is a round worth talking about.

Until next time, thanks for taking the time.

Mark

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